Friends, not Part of My Destiny to Ever Have One

Over a dozen years ago I had a best friend namedlike the one at AT&T.
Phillip. We both worked for the same company andI had an extra computer at my house and I thought
when we first met we could not stand each other.that if I sent it to Tony along with a programming
Our boss was making us work together on thingspackage like Visual Studio that maybe it would
and over time we found out we had a lot of thingsmotivate him to pursue something in computers. I
in common and for the next 3 years Phillip was mydidn't even say anything to Tony and I just sent it
best friend. Whenever I needed someone to talk toafter gift wrapping it. Ironically it was real close to
he was there and vice versa plus we would goXmas when I did this. I asked for nothing in return
bowling together about once a week and we bothfrom Tony but it would have been nice if he had
enjoyed SciFi shows like Star Trek.maybe said Thank You.
During this time I had left my job and started myWhen he got everything the next week instead of
own company. Phillip and I had made a mutualjust saying thanks he complained about all the
agreement that if he became interested in a ladyaccessories he now needed to get. He also stated
that worked for me he would not pursue athat he preferred Intel CPU's as opposed to the ones
relationship with her as this might cause futureby AMD. He never opened the Visual Studio but
problems Several years later Phillip did becomeinstead sold it for a few hundred dollars. It's now
interested in a lady that worked for me and Phillipbeen about 4 years and I never hear from Tony any
took me aside and asked for permission to date thismore. I haven't even gone back to my hometown to
lady. This caused a huge argument between Phillipvisit in the last dozen years.
and I and our friendship almost completelySeveral months ago at Booksamillion there was this
disappeared because of this.lady that would serve me coffee at Joe Muggs.
About a year later I has some legal problems where IAfter several visits we started talking and I went out
could have really used a friend to talk to every onceof my way to help this lady out along with her
and awhile and Phillip was nowhere to be found. Ihusband and kids. Just little things like creating a
tried to initiate our friendship about 10 years later butwebsite for their part time business and I helped
the things we once had in common were no longerthem with some minor research on the net. I had
there and Phillip had a new wife and was very muchfigured that maybe they would become friends with
into his religion.myself and my wife. In the end all this family was
When I was growing up there was this one kid Tonymaybe interested in was just becoming casual with
who was my best friend. We both loved baseball,me and my wife.
the movies Raiders of the Lost Ark, Flash Gordon,Currently I have taken a part time job outside the
and Grease. He had gotten a computer back in 1976house because I figured I would meet other people
and he taught me how to program it using Basic. Heplus have some extra money. I am the oldest
could do so much with that computer and I hademployee that this place has, everybody else is in
always figured that someday he would make a lot oftheir twenties or even younger. I have tried to
money creating computer applications. After highmaintain contact with my half brothers but I am part
school we had both gone in separate directions. I didof my Dad's old family and very seldom do I even
not see him again until our 10 year reunion.hear from my Father. I am not an alcoholic but I
Tony was now one of those phone operatorsthought about joining a local Alcoholics Anonymous
working for AT&T plus he was married and this ladyjust so I could be amongst other people who might
was to put it as nice as possible very homely looking.even eventually become a friend.
I had 2 businesses back then, a retail computer storeOver the many years of my life I have always tried
and a wholesale computer business. I was on top ofto help others like other business people or people I
the world at that reunion because both businesseshave just met somewhere . For some reason none
were doing phenomenal. Tony and I stayed in touchof these others are ever interested in maintaining a
via chat after the reunion and a couple of years laterfriendship. With everything that my wife and I have
AT&T was laying him off. I always thought that hegoing in our lives we don't have the time or the
should have gone into computers because he was somoney to join things like a bowling league and neither
good at it but he was only looking for another jobof us drink so we will not be going out to any clubs.