| How can anyone with the brain of a
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| | picked up as a youngster is a poor way to
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| cockroach make such a stupid statement?So
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| | shape your life into a successful affair.
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| rang out the scorn of a killer talk show
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| | In our conventional behavioral patterns
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| host on a television station in
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| | many mistakes have been handed down from
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| Cleveland. When I was on tour in his
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| | generation to generation. At home you
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| city, John Kelly quoted Leo Derocher who
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| | were probably socialized not to ask
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| said just the opposite -- "Nice guys
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| | embarrassing questions of your elders. At
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| finish last." Kelly also quoted from
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| | school you were expected to memorize the
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| books like Winning Through Intimidation,
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| | correct answers. And if you are like most
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| Looking Out For Number ONE and possibly,
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| | people, you are still waiting for someone
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| Succeeding With A Swift Kick To the
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| | to ask the right questions so you can
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| Groin.John Kelly had done everything
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| | show what a good student you
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| except put a dunce-cap on my head as he
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| | were.Unfortunately for your welfare, no
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| seated me on a stool before the cameras
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| | one is ever going to ask them, since most
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| and, despite his complete ignorance of
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| | of the answers you learned in school are
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| what I was teaching, proceeded to
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| | no longer appropriate. Yet -- millions of
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| ridicule my leadership seminar for
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| | men and women who would never imagine
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| managers, pastors, teachers and other
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| | crossing the country by covered wagon
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| professionals. He held my book up for the
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| | instead of jet aircraft, who would never
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| audience of some three hundred people --
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| | take some medicine man's snake-oil cure,
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| with tens of thousands more watching from
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| | try to succeed in life by using methods
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| their homes, and asked;Who can believe
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| | that were outdated a century ago. And
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| this drivel? Everyone on earth knows that
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| | then can't understand why they aren't
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| a nice guy or gal hasn't a choice in this
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| | among the successful achievers.Today, men
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| lousy, rotten world. You gotta be tough
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| | and women are having to cope with complex
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| and mean to be successful. Everywhere!
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| | events that are affecting their lives in
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| How many agree with me that this stuff is
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| | many crucial ways. Medicine, personal
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| nonsense? Raise your hands.That was
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| | behavior, education, entertainment,
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| premature since no one there had any idea
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| | sexual customs, engineering and business
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| what I was teaching in the seminar, but
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| | methods are all changing more rapidly
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| they voted as Kelly asked them to. Many
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| | than at any time in history. We no sooner
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| had preconceived notions and about two
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| | get comfortable than life rolls over once
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| hundred people in the studio agreed with
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| | again, forcing us to learn an entirely
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| John. He then asked, How many agree with
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| | new set of attitudes, activities and
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| -- he didn't actually say it -- this
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| | relationships!And yet, not one of the
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| dunce on the stool, but his non-verbal
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| | changes sweeping over us like Pacific
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| communication made his meaning quite
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| | waves crashing onto a reef, has such
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| clear. John was all geared up to take me
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| | critical implications when making one's
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| apart for writing something he didn't
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| | life count for something satisfying as
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| understand. He pointed to the
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| | the attitudes that people now hold toward
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| overwhelming number of hands in the air
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| | power and control.The John Wayne or John
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| and said; Take it from there, Doc. Let's
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| | Rambo mystique (Tell the jerks what to
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| see how you handle this rejection. He sat
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| | do!) doesn't motivate competent persons
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| down in the audience, as all three
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| | any more. If it ever did! For example,
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| cameras zoomed in close -- to watch me
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| | since the disasters caused by fighting
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| sweat, I suppose. Because I knew what my
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| | the wrong people, in the wrong place, at
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| program was all about and he didn't -- I
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| | the wrong time -- during America's
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| countered by agreeing with the host. I
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| | shameful wars against poor, dark-skinned
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| said;If you consider a nice guy or gal a
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| | Third World nations such as Vietnam,
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| doormat, a wimp, a marshmallow -- I agree
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| | Libya, Panama, Granada, Lebanon, Somalia
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| with you completely. Such a person
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| | and others, many perceptive women and men
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| doesn't have a chance to succeed in a
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| | have lost faith in our institutions.We
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| tough, competitive world in which many
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| | see Congress and state Legislatures
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| other persons are striving for the same
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| | consistently selling out to the highest
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| things we want for ourselves. The
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| | bidder, business organizations disposing
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| tough-minded guys and gals will run over
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| | of the faithful employees who do their
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| the wimps in a very short time. I,
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| | best work at the drop of a point on Wall
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| however don't think of the doormats of
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| | Street, the criminal justice system with
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| the world as truly nice guys and gals. I
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| | trigger-happy cops and politically
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| see nice persons as competent and
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| | ambitious district attorneys regularly
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| intelligent persons who understand the
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| | convicting and legally murdering
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| nature of influence, cooperation and
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| | unfortunate, mostly poor, minority men
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| persuasion power -- as those who;MANAGE
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| | who couldn't possibly have committed the
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| INTERPERSONAL RELATIONSHIPS WITH
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| | crimes for which they are being executed.
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| KNOWLEDGE AND WISDOMSHARE THE REWARDS OF
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| | The very flexible morality of primitive
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| ACHIEVEMENT WITH THE MEN AND WOMEN WHO
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| | politicians, greedy business executives,
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| HELP THEM SUCCEEDCREATE COMMUNITIES OF
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| | powerful governmental officials and
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| SATISFIED ACHIEVERS IN WHICH EVERY PERSON
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| | existentially enraged citizens who feel
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| IS A RESPECTED MEMBERAnd that, I said to
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| | the execution of any minority man whether
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| the group, is my definition of a nice guy
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| | guilty or not is a good day's work -- is
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| or gal, of an authentic, emotionally
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| | a weak reed upon which to lean.Every
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| honest parent, teacher, manager, pastor,
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| | person with a smattering of intelligence
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| military officer or what have you!I
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| | realizes he or she is out there on the
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| folded my arms and sat back on the stool
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| | bubble -- pretty much alone -- on his or
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| -- waiting, for I had said all I intended
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| | her own, much of the time. Few of us
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| to in defense of NICE GUYS AND GALS. So,
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| | without the support of government or
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| I waited and waited -- for John to rouse
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| | great wealth have the power needed to
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| up from his confusion. I could almost
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| | demand cooperation from others. Not long
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| hear the gears whirring in his head as
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| | ago a middle-aged local realtor told me
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| first one cam- era and then another
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| | of an experience he had with his youthful
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| zoomed in on me and then on to John and
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| | secretary. Dan said that Dianne was a
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| panned the audience be- fore coming back
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| | hardworking, high-spirited employee who
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| to me and John -- for almost a minute.
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| | was competent and loyal enough to become
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| And that, is an eternity of dead time on
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| | his administrative assistant. He said,
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| television. The camera operators were
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| | she reminded him of the flippant young
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| getting frantic when John finally stood,
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| | secretary in the T V series THE PRACTICE.
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| shook his head to clear his thoughts and
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| | But he began to notice, to his middle age
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| muttered right on the air;Well, I'll be
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| | displeasure, that she was dressing more
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| damned! I never thought of nice guys that
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| | and more casually, as if she were going
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| way.Most people don't but we then had a
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| | to a picnic rather than to a business
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| great time on his show. I convinced him
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| | operation. So, he called her into his
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| my approach is by far the best way to
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| | office and tactfully asked her to dress
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| succeeding throughout life, rather than
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| | according to his code -- the long
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| by clawing and screaming, trying to
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| | accepted business code set by such giants
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| defeat everyone else, destroying the
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| | as I B M, General Motors and Honeywell.
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| relationships that create friend- ship
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| | The young woman sat silently as he spoke,
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| and love, clogging your arteries and
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| | but when he finished, she stood up and
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| corroding the plumbing that keeps you
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| | said quite pointedly;Who needs this crap
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| alive -- with bile and acids boiling
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| | in an informal business such as this?Then
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| through your vascular and digestive
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| | she walked out of his office, returned to
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| systems.John had the people vote again
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| | her desk, and continued to work harder
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| and this time all but two men of the
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| | and smarter for his small company than
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| three hundred or so in the audience voted
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| | any assistant he had ever employed. As he
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| that nice guys and gals did indeed have a
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| | related the story, Dan sighed deeply and
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| greater chance at success if they
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| | said there was little he could do about
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| followed my view of sound relationships.
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| | her impertinence, unless he wanted to cut
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| They immediately saw the wisdom in my
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| | off his nose to spite his face. He could
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| approach and I trust that you also shall
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| | protect his ego against an outspoken girl
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| understand it that way! The next Sunday,
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| | -- could fire her of course, and really
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| after I'd returned to Minneapolis, I drew
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| | teach her a lesson, forcing her to take
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| my pastor aside, told him my tale and
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| | unemployment pay, a month or two of
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| joked;If you had my percentage of
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| | subsidized vacation, and get a job with a
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| conversions, we'd have the largest
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| | company that would not be so stuffy about
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| congregation in the country!MAKING YOUR
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| | the way she dressed. But, he would be the
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| LIFE COUNTThis course is about people and
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| | real loser. He would spend a month trying
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| about succeeding or failing in life,
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| | to find a suitable replacement, another
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| since some degree of success and failure
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| | three or four months trying to help the
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| are the only real options that are open
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| | newcomer learn the job, and another six
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| to us. It is written with the knowledge
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| | months blaming himself for letting his
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| that neither power nor pleasure exists in
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| | ego cost him a year's efficiency in his
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| a vacuum. Virtually everything good we do
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| | office. He kept his mouth shut and
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| in life requires the cooperation of
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| | retained a great assistant -- for he
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| people in different ways. And every one
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| | lacked the power to make her comply with
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| of them has his or her own agenda that is
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| | his requirements.Indeed life does go on
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| personally important.Therefore, you will
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| | and we must adapt, must cope with reality
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| have to overpower, out-skill, deceive, or
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| | in order to succeed, even if doing so
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| persuade others before society will
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| | makes us suspect that the world is going
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| consistently allow you to share in the
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| | to hell in a handcart, because humans
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| marbles, money, passionate lovers,
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| | hate change inordinately and yearn to
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| prestige or promotions you want. Only in
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| | freeze life as it was when we were
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| this way can you make your life count for
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| | learning it. Even when doing so costs us
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| something worthwhile.Of course, few of
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| | a bundle. Many people do just that
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| the people who are succeeding are willing
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| | because personal prestige is more
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| to share their hard-earned knowledge with
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| | important to themselves than performance
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| you. Mentors are hard to find and they
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| | or profits, but it quickly leads to
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| always want much in return for any help
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| | dysfunctional families, schools,
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| they offer.The purpose of this course is
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| | companies, churches and communities.Visit
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| to teach you how to predict the attitudes
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| | our website at Wishes,
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| and activities of the men and women you
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| | Jard DeVilleThe Author - Jard DeVille,
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| must influence every day in order to keep
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| | after his World War II era service in the
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| your life successful. It also shows you
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| | Seventh and Fifth Army Air Forces,
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| how to influence their choices in ways
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| | studied, ministered to several
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| they approve by using sound methods of
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| | congregations and taught college
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| personal effectiveness. You can do these
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| | psychology for almost two decades.
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| things by learning and using powerful
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| | DeVille was Psychology Department Chair
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| techniques developed by some very good
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| | at Westminster College, Director of the
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| psychiatrists and psychologists. These
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| | Kenosha Child Conservation Center in
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| methods are unknown to most people,
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| | conjunction with the University of
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| although professional therapists,
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| | Wisconsin at Madison and taught
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| consultants and social workers have been
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| | leadership psychology for years in the
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| using them for decades with much
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| | Executive Development Program for the
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| success.Most people struggle through life
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| | University of Arizona at Tucson. He
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| the best way they can, succeeding once in
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| | served as Manager of Engineering
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| a while, but more often failing because
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| | Research, Methods and Training for
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| they never learned how to consistently
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| | UniRoyal chemical complex and as Vice
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| make good things happen when and where
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| | President of Manufacturing for automated
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| they are needed. They simply blunder
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| | farm tools in Derardean Corporation.Jard
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| along -- accepting whatever the luck of
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| | has published more than a score of
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| the draw offers them daily, never really
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| | psychology books, seminars and
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| taking charge of their relationships in a
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| | psychological assessment instruments. His
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| mutually rewarding manner that keeps
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| | book NICE GUYS FINISH FIRST was powerful
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| people cooperating with them.Many persons
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| | in English, Japanese and Spanish
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| try to succeed by using the values,
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| | editions. THE PSYCHOLOGY OF LEADERSHIP
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| attitudes, expectations, and skills they
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| | was New American Library's offering in
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| chanced on in childhood. Unfortunately,
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| | their Executive Development Series. For
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| in this age of relentless change, when
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| | twenty years he was considered by many to
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| power and authority are shared by more
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| | be America's foremost leadership scholar.
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| and more people, to depend on what you
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